Wednesday, April 21, 2010

My four year old is a meanie head.....

or how to let them get to you....

When Bubbles turned four, she had a week or so (around that time) where she was sweet and endearing. Don't misunderstand me, she is adorable. I love her. She will be used mightily of the Lord. I can see the glimmerings of that in things she does.

Sometimes though, I wonder if she'll ever be allowed out of the house.

 She has taken this nifty little trick of screaming as I'm imposing my mommy will upon her. ... like when I want her to actually LEAVE the store with me. Or maybe, just maybe, to pick up the legos she's forcibly thrown around the room.... or like the fateful day she threw blocks at the Therapists office.

Mini-Me saved her bacon that day by picking up the blocks while I finished my conference with the Therapist. But Bubbles still got a spanking when we got to the van. She refused to obey until it was time to leave - which at that point was disobedience.

What's that?? What's she doing? Oh - well - I guess I could interrupt my rant to tell you --

I quote: "Don't Touch me!"
"You're hurting me!"
"You're scaring me!" (my personal favorite)
"You scratched me!"

It's lies. All of it. But it doesn't stop her from screaming them.
at the top of her lungs.
Often while throwing herself on the floor...with tears.

You'd be surprised at the looks I get.

I dare not spank her in the store...she'll just scream "I'm bweeeeeeding!!!!!"

Which is why - I made a shirt from

It's simple and black.
With white lettering.

It says "Don't blame me - They started it."
I have decided this is my "Going to the store with more than one child" shirt.

I had a mom of teenagers comment on a Facebook post - something sweet and innocent about "Shifting the blame ... no matter that they're little" - which she was trying to tell me, my reaction is truly my responsibility.

I understand that. I get it. I really do. I am the adult in this situation.
but when my child is screaming down the hall way from the therapists office to the van about me hurting her and "Don't make me fall" as we approach the stairs to the parking lot... I think I'm allowed my t-shirt disclaimer.

She may be the better mom than I - and I'm okay with that....

My child hides under the dining table yelling "You're scaring me!"

I may need more than one shirt.
I bet I could get it in multiple colors.


Kelli said...

AMEN. I hear you! My little angel screams all the time. He screams when his siter comes in the room. He screams when she kisses him. He screams: "Don't love me!!!" to her. He screams when strangers are nice and say hi to him. I've taken to leaving him at home when I have to go somewhere. (Scarlett watches him, I don't leave him alone) But I totally hear you. :)

You are an awesome mom. Wear the shirt. Wear it with pride...and probably a wince. ;)

Mother Mayhem said...

Imagine doing that when the kid is nearly 6 foot tall. SIGH.

I've learned the look-straight-ahead-as-if-you-hear-and-see-nothing move. Now if I can only get the tic to stop...

Halfmoon Girl said...

Oh gosh- been here! I have totally been calling my 7 yr old on his remarks about me such as "You never..." "You always..." I stop him and ask him to check if he is telling the truth. Sometimes he gets it, sometimes he doesn't...

The other day one of my kids complained about dinner while I was making it, and said they wouldn't eat it. I maturely replied "Good, you're not invited anyways." Great parenting moments...

TobyBo said...

do you think there is any significance to the fact that my little code for "word verification" below the comment box at this very moment says "bratesse"?

I just heard of a mom who was in a store where a little girl was throwing a royal tantrum. The dad stepped over little girl calmly, and said, "I will be in the car when you are done and ready to go home." And walked out of the store. The mom who saw it wished she had applauded.

The Gang's Momma! said...

Wear the shirt with pride. And get me one while you're at it.

And I think that FB mommy is a poopie meanie head.

CrossView said...

ROFL! I'm sorry! I can't help it! That has got to be frustrating which will make it look even worse to onlookers! Ohmy! No win! *still giggling here*

Oh! I'm pretty sure this stage will pass. So stock up on the tees till then??!!

jugglingpaynes said...

We're going through stuff too. I'm calling it a phase. That's the only way I'll get through it. :oP

I like Toby's word verification better than mine. "ingant"
Peace and Laughter,