Wednesday, May 5, 2010

Not looking forward to it...

Sometimes, the lessons of life are just too difficult to learn.

We got word yesterday that a friend from our small church had been taken into the hospital. At the time we had no idea what was wrong. She's 41. And actually she's more of a friend to Mini-Me than she is to me. Mostly because I spend most of my time chasing down fights among the little kids.

We prayed for our friend last night before bed and it was not long before Mini-me comes traipsing back to ask about her.

This morning I'm faced with the chore to tell her that her friend has been termed "Brain Dead".

I KNOW God is more than enough. I Know that He's capable of raising people from the dead. Does it shake my faith when He doesn't do it? No. Because it doesn't shake who He is.

What it does is shake my understanding. I don't understand. And Mini-Me will only see that she's lost another friend. That makes me saddest of all. I hate that my kids have to learn that sometimes life just sucks.

As a parent, even here in the Laundry Pile, we want to protect the kids from the harsher realities of life. Then comes the time when they come right in our faces. Then comes the trick.

How to teach the kids how to praise in the middle of the storm.
I know enough about God to know that He did not cause the sickness -- but that doesn't mean He can't use it to be Glorified. Which is what we want now...

I want my kids to see God glorified even when life sucks.

8 comments:

Dapoppins said...

My own kids have walked with me through several deaths as my grandparents have passed away and as another is in the last transition. It doesn't seem to affect them deeply and I don't know if it is their faith in haven or their lack of a deeper relationship with this generation. Sudden deaths like this woman, who is my age! are scary and unpredictable...I think that would be harder to explain and deal with than anything. However, I know that if you SEEK Him now in your sorrow, you will FIND Him now in your sorrow.


if that helps...

Classic MaMa said...

I just LOVE your heart. Min, right now, totally feels for you. He will give you the best way to respond to her questions and to lead her through a time that will hurt. You are such a good mommy-shepherd. :) I'll pray for your flock and your little lamb.

Halfmoon Girl said...

Oh my goodness, now I understand your fb status better! Hugs to you as you walk through this with your daughter. Have you ever read Little Pilgrim's Progress with your kids? I have found that it gets across the message that this life is a journey, and that heaven is a desired destination. Your daughter is blessed to have a caring mom that realizes that just because she is a child that doesn't mean that her emotions aren't real and valid.

Mrs Q said...

Praying for you all. I had to tell my kids almost 4 years ago about the same situation with a 16 year old boy in our small church then 6 months later when our minister's 23year-old daughter was killed in a car accident we had to tell them about that too. It was a difficult time. When you look back later you realise that the Lord really does sustain you during those times and helps the kids to get through it and understand. Love and Hugs from Oz.

Christa said...

Amen. It's not an easy lesson for anyone.

CrossView said...

A part of life that I do not like! =(

Kahri said...

I am so sorry...such a hard thing to go through as a mommy and as a child learning about death. mi

Mrs. Darling said...

Oh my I just now read this. Im so sorry! I will be praying.